I wanted to see how everyone uses Facebook, accepting or adding friends – or not adding or accepting.

During my lifetime I have come across several types of friends. I can rattle off a few: work mate, best mate, chick friends, guys you know through friends, old school friends, old work friends…then there is the awkward one…the guy you have just started seeing. Or, wouldn’t mind dating!!

Ok, so you scope out their reaction first to Facebook. Judging by her/his reaction you get a gauge on whether they are on it, active on it, or not at all.
She is on there! Bang.

You go on and see what you can find, any photos, any comments, and best of all, who she is mates with and whether she is single! Of course you would like to improve the chances of having similar interests, so snooping in her interests is something to look at.

She is a smart one. She has locked down access to her page, unless you become friends with her. But her profile picture is intriguing.

Now this is going to drive you crazy isn’t it? What is she up to in that world? It’s something that you can’t really ask about because the simple answer is ‘you know I talk to family and friends’. Doesn’t really take a Sherlock Holmes to figure this one out.

Is it inappropriate to ask her to be your friend on Facebook when you have only known each other for a month?

And when you do become friends on Facebook..What happens then…you both will be stalking one another’s every move, to see who else is on the scene, if they are telling you the truth? And of course any photos taken of them – what are they really like when they are with their friends. You may find once you are friends it reveals so much more than what you really intended.

Dating and being on Facebook gets complicated, because dating is not a committed relationship! When you are dating, you are just that..having had no talk or mention of the future. Or you may have talked about future plans, without really thinking about the commitment level. Do you assume you are in a relationship only because you have been dating a few months? Apparently this is something ‘you’ should know. Personally, I have to be told as I am very black and white. I might have feelings, but would never assume the other person would unless told directly.

The tricky part in all of this is knowing when to add the new boyfriend as your boyfriend. Do you talk about it? Or just do it?

What do you think?